As Valentine’s Day approaches, we’re bombarded with images of couples exchanging gifts, reciting romantic lyrics, and holding hands in picturesque flower gardens. It’s enough to drive single sisters haywire, reaching out for any available suitor.
Valentine is coming, where is your boyfriend? (Singing) Where is your boyfriend o? Where is your boyfriend?!
Welcome to that time of year when the pressure to be in a relationship is reignited. Truly, this is the season when being single feels especially dreadful.
Firstly, who’s going to get you those Telemundo-style flowers? Secondly, who will you get cozy with? Thirdly, who’s sending you those emotional love messages? And again, who’s spoiling you with fantastic cookies and chocolates? Smh… where is your boyfriend?
Tickets for two! Couples are booking vacation flights, while others are securing seats for Valentine’s events. And here you are—ALONE!
As usual, expect to see memes like “Boyfriend for rent” and “Hire me for Valentine.”
Uhmm, in this cold weather, who are you smooching and hugging? (laughing emoji). While we repost these memes for laughs, someone somewhere is seriously whispering: “God, when?”
Let’s Get Serious
The truth is, someone out there is genuinely sulking about being single on Valentine’s Day. Someone else is hunting for an emergency boyfriend just to smash the red and fit into the occasion.
There’s pressure!
Your friends are already planning their Valentine’s night. Your best friend might even get engaged that day. Meanwhile, your sister is ordering a beautiful red dress to rock the show with her man.
Everyone seems to be stealing the spotlight. You just want to feel loved. I get it—you want to feel valuable, beautiful, and special.
But no one is asking you out. There’s no pending message telling you how amazing and loved you are. Now you’re feeling unlucky and wretched.
But… is it really worth it?
Being single is not a curse. You can have a wonderful February 14 without a man. And no, there’s nothing weird about not spending Valentine’s Day with someone special.
It all starts with your mindset. Not having a boyfriend doesn’t mean the world is over. In fact, it has absolutely nothing to do with your life crumbling.
Did I hear you say that? Off your mic!
The Original Purpose of Valentine Has Been Distorted
Yes, Valentine’s Day is great for couples. I appreciate that it’s a time for bonding and coziness, but that’s not all. That’s just the slimmest part of it.
Valentine’s Day wasn’t originally about being “lovey-dovey.” The true essence of Valentine is spreading and showing love—not the kind of love that makes people join the “pepper dem gang.”
Therefore, loving yourself and treating yourself to a spoiling session is a perfect way to celebrate Valentine’s Day too.
And it doesn’t stop there. Gift your mom some beautiful flowers. Surprise your dad with a thoughtful item. Send sweet, heartfelt messages to your siblings. That’s fulfilling Valentine’s purpose too.
Family is everything. Imagine making your family feel special on Valentine’s Day.
Think about it: our parents are probably busy with work, aged, or caught up in life’s hustle. Most of them barely have time to enjoy the season. Doing something special for them is a big win—Valentine fulfilled!
Celebrate Beyond the Romantic Circle
Celebrate your individuality. Think about the people who have made a positive impact on your life and show them love.
Reflect on the countless ways you are loved.
- Be kind to someone.
- Give up your seat to that elderly woman.
- Help that old man carry his load.
- Pay the T-fare for that little child sitting beside you on the bus.
Do something for someone. Be kind!
